Siblings call out 38-year-old brother for adopting a 6-year-old, claim he's robbing their children of his inheritance: 'I am robbing them of potential wealth'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Aug 27, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

Everyone is allowed to do what they'd like with their money, even if they don't like it. This can be complicated when it comes to family. You might think of your family's money as your own, even though that might not be true. Maybe you count your expected inheritance as part of your fortune that will come one day, but that's a mistake. Anything can happen. Money is more fluid than you think. Plus, you never know if you're going to have a falling out with a family member and they write you out of the will. It happens all the time, at least in movies and TV shows… 

But you should never count anyone else's money as your own. If you have children, it's your duty to provide for them, not anybody else's. Sure, you might be thankful for family who helps you out when they can, but it's a different thing to rely on this kind of help. This is especially true if you haven't even talked about it; you just assumed that they would give you access to their funds. 

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  • A man takes care of two children.
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  • That's what happened in this situation where a family was upset when their sibling adopted a son. They thought that he would be childless forever and thus have access to his money. But they thought wrong. Read on to see what happened in this family drama. 

  • Am I in the wrong for adopting my son and robbing my niblings of inheritance?

    I have two elder sisters. Both have two children each. I love my niblings and I gift them expensive gifts and baby sit whenever I can.
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  • I am a single, anesthesiologist and 38m. I am a gay. Lgbt marriage isn't legal and I always wanted a child. So I adopted an orphan boy recently who is six years old. We are learning, developing bond. Getting therapy and got him into English medium school. I bought a house and my parents live with me. My parents sacrificed everything for three children..so never bought a house, so we could have an english medium education and other things in life.
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  • It has caused an uproar..My parents has finally came around and loving their grandson, as he also carry our family's surname. But my sisters and their husbands aren't happy. They said niblings ( nephews and nieces) love me and they would always care for me, even when I become old. That I am robbing them of potential wealth
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  • My sisters are well off too. So it's not like that they need my money. But my son is my focus and I will make sure he gets the best things in life. Currently we aren't talking after they mistreated my son and I told them clearly, if they want a relationship, they have to accept my son. And they aren't allowed at my home. Though kids can come.but they aren't allowing them either..I have decided to cut all these gifts
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  • My parents requested me to forgive them and give them a chance, but their behaviour isn't good. I told them that both of them have to show in actions. My parents are sad that they can't meet sisters in my home. I have been called difficult. But my son and his happiness is most important. AITAH?
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  • Commenters agreed he had a right to do what he wanted with his money.

    BeachinLife1 · 5h ago Your siblings only see you as a bank account. They are even proving it by using their own kids as pawns against you. They are not good people. Your money was NEVER theirs to make plans for. You could have left everything to charity if you wanted, why did they think their kids would get your money??
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  • Tell your parents if they want to take the siblings side, they can go and live with them, but you don't have to have them in your life.
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  • You... 5h ago • • Edited 4h ago NTA They and their kids are not entitled to your wealth or the benefits that may come with it, now or in the future. The trouble is they got used to assuming you would lavish it on their kids and that their kids would inherit it.
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  • It's THEIR job to generate the wealth to leave their own kids an inheritance if they want them to have one. They assumed that because you are gay, that would preclude you from having kids. Instead of being happy for you that this isn't the case, and that you are now able to have and enjoy a child of your own that are sticking to the little fantasy they concocted in their heads.
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  • Even if you do decide to heed your parents and forgive them, you are absolutely not obliged to accept continued behaviour from them or to resume spending your income on their kids instead of your own.
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  • Late-Warning7849.5h ago My siblings and my husband's siblings were similarly unhappy when my son was born after I began ivf and it really highlighted how bad my relationship was with them. They were literally waiting for
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  • me to di and 'spending' my money in their dreams. My sister even rewrote her will to take into account of any money I might leave her kids! Now, of course, my son gets it all.
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  • Prunelmaginary8871 5h ago • Wait.. huh? So your sisters wanted you to leave all YOUR money to their children? I thought this was a post about your son getting inheritance from your parents in the future... This is even worse/more bizarre The entitlement. Basically saying. you don't need kids and should leave everything to THEIR kids? Yeah, no. Definitely NTA. X
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  • CherryKissTease 5h ago • absolutely NTA your sisters acting like your love and money are some kind of inheritance bank is gross. you didn't "rob" anyone, you chose to give a child a safe home and a family. that's the most selfless thing you could do. if they can't respect your son, then they don't respect you either. your son is your family now and it's 100% right that he comes first
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  • writing_mm_romance 5h ago . So you were going to be their piggy bank. F them. that and
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  • RinoaRita 5h ago Wait you're 38 and they're doing this????? Wtffff were they planning on offing you?? I'd get my will checked and accounts for mysterious circumstances. I had to do a reread like is this guy like 60 and adopting a son? That's kind of but I get it. But I also get the family being concerned they'll have to take care of the kid and manage the estate for him.
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  • But at 38..... like you can expect to live at least 30 more years if not more. It is concerning your inheritance is even an active topic??? Seems sus.
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  • GellyG42.5h ago It's hard to discover you're the family bank account, you don't owe ANYONE a share of what you worked for, inheritance is a gift not a right and it's frankly gross that they are prioritising their planned money grab over being happy for you becoming a parent and your son joining the family.
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  • TurboCharged_215 3h ago NTA, i was a great uncle to my "nibblings", but I got married and had a child at 36m. Once my baby came around I was suddenly alienated because I prioritized my baby. I honestly expected my niblings to grow up with my child (one was born 3
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  • months before mines) and it's very disappointing. Tbh, pointing out the obvious to my family i get called ride, etc. Long story short, hold your ground.
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  • Large_Effective_812.5h ago NTA, tell your Mom and Dad you are talking to the wrong. people. Your daughters are coming at this with greed, not care and you both are welcome to live with them if you agree on this as I'm allowed to make choices on
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  • what family is to me not my sisters. The audacity of some people. Remind them their daughters are only mad because of money they have shown me who they are.
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  • Whatever 1967 • 5h ago NTA. Your sisters can have children, but you can't? And their children are more important than your son? Would they have reacted the same way if you weren't gay, and had just married a woman and have kids? If not, they are just discriminating against your inability to have the "Normal" lifestyle. And they definitely don't deserve anything from you for discrimination.
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  • Shot_Tie2761 • 5h ago Your sisters and their husbands are greedy ah_les. If your parents can't see that there is something wrong with them.
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  • Rough-Blacksmith-... • 4h ago NTA. Congratulations on becoming a parent. I hope your son always knows how much you love him. Would your greedy sisters feel the same way if you were straight and impregnated a woman? If not, they're not only selfish but also homophobic. Good for you for not exposing your kiddo to that.
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  • Crazy4Swayze420 • 3h ago NTA sounds like your better off without them in your life because you're just an ATM to them for their kids. Also how sick in the head does an adult have to be to mistreat a child out of jealousy or something dumb like that.
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  • Your kid should come before everyone else and if someone is mistreating your child it's not crazy to cut them off. It's like having a cancer removed. From my POV being a parent means putting your kid or kids before others.
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  • Letitbe_liveyourlife 3h ago . Obviously NTA. Your siblings sound incredibly entitled. Child or no child, it's your money, you earned it, and you get to decide how to spend it. No explanation needed. You're making the right choices. If they want to stay in your life, they need to show it through their actions. Good for you for prioritizing, protecting, and loving your son. You've already proven yourself to be a great parent.
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